WORDS (Love)

Words and actions, words as action … words … only the meaning you give to them.  It’s been said that action is louder than words, really?  Have you ever read a book that changed your entire life?  Has someone said one word to you and your whole day change?  Recently someone just said two simple words “Empty Mind” and a whole Rap Song/Poetry appeared (the beats need work).  So words can create (seemingly) and inspire action.

Once spent some time attempting to teach people from other countries words from the English language through the dictionary.  It seemed like an impossible task.  Just about every word has more than one meaning and so attempting to explain to someone with “words” that the same word can have two (or more) different meanings made it very complicated to communicate.  This may have been the beginning of the spark that led to “no words speak the Heart.”  That actually the Heart Speak is before the words and what the words ride on and to pay attention to that.

How can one begin to see this?  Let’s take a saying that is said a lot (which is great it’s one of the best to say and truly is the only thing we are ever really saying both with words and without no matter how it appears in reality), “I love you.”

Ultimately you know, what Love is, whether you are aware of it or not, because you are IT.  However, this saying can be heard in many different ways because of the life experiences that we have and how covered over we become by those experiences. 

In this world if you say “I love you,” there usually are expectations around it, but that is not Love, that is “you love me and “I” will love you back.”  It is a game of give and take and if you don’t do what “I” want then “I” will not love you anymore.  That is not the Love that is being spoken of here.  The Love that is being spoken of, doesn’t change, doesn’t move, isn’t dependent on it’s return, it just IS.  It is willing to have the pleasure and the pain of Loving.  It knows the depths of the saying “There is Beauty in the Pain.” 

You will find that many of the greatest Artists, suffered the most tragedy (by this worlds standards) to create the Masterpieces that bring about the emotion of Love (in all its forms, which is all forms).  It is the willingness that when one loses in Love, they reap the reward of Love itSelf.

Now back to words.  Saying “I Love You” to someone is natural, we have made it into something possessive, but it is natural to Love.  Just because you love someone doesn’t mean you get to own them, it means you get to Love them.  Loving is the Gift not the person, the person is the Gift that you get to see Love through, but when you make it so that it is only that person, then you block the love that is all around you, and yet when you become aware that Love is not limited, it grows.

If you have children this is easy to see, if you have more than one even easier, when you have your first child you love them so much, there is nothing you would not do, then if you find you are having another child you may find the thoughts appear that say “How will “I” ever love another child as much as the one I already have?”, but after the child comes, you realize there is no limit to Love.  You don’t love one child more than another. 

This is how it is with everyone, not just your children, but Love grows like this with everyone.  The more willing you are to Love people, animals, life itself, the more it grows, you can Love everyone like you Love your children.  Just because one thinks something is impossible, doesn’t make it so. 

Recently took a class to learn about motorcylces and had to pick up a 700lb bike off the ground so that if it falls while being riden it can be picked up.  It seemed absolutely impossible, didn’t think there was anyway this massive bike would get picked up.  Slipped a few times and had to change shoes, then it still seemed too heavy but there was so much encouragement to do it, that it was kept on with.  Calmed down, laid back, and slowly eased the bike up with the lower back, took small steps one by one and then the bike was upright.  Had done it!  Didn’t think it could be done, but it was … next another woman made her attempt and she also said “no, no I can’t” and however since it happened for this one it was known that she could do it.  Started cheering her on … telling her what this one had done wrong the first time and to lay back relax and small steps.  She then did it too and we both shared that once we got past the thoughts that said “I” can’t” it happened.  Then we both were cheering the other women on which all of them also seemed to say “no “I” can’t first.” 

So this is how it is with Love.  You can Love, without expectation or return, you can Love when it seems there is no Love anywhere to be found and you can Love everyone, even the ones that hurt you, because you are Love.

(pic of one of the girls
 picking up the bike)

When my mother was dying, there was a moment right before she passed that there was a flash flood of all of our fighting, all of our disagreements, all of the wantings for the other to be some other way than how they are and then there was a Seeing, that we were always yelling “I Love You” even when the words out of the mouth said “hate” and all of the actions had come from Love, the fights had been “because” we loved each other so much and didn’t know how to help the other. 

How funny that … two people would fight even physically sometimes, because they Love one another so much.  But they did and they do.  That Gift that we were given before she died, left no doubt in this mind that she loved/Loves me completely. 

Everything was healed in that one instant.

Love.

Everything she had ever done in her life in regards to me and everyone else in her orbit came from Love.  And now it is known that it is this way for everyone, even though appearances make it look like it is something else.  

Love has no opposite.

This life changing event has deepened over time, it took quite a lot of years to process and now that it has, it doesn’t mean that there is still not hurt here when someone doesn’t return Love (even though they are but it doesn’t look like it) or when we are mean to each other or say things we don’t mean to hurt one another. 

Maybe now there will be a crack, where you are not so quick to do it - to lash out and hurt another, that when someone says or does something to you that causes you pain, you look at it from the eyes of Love … first and then react. 

However, don’t assume that if you act in a way that seems, unloving, that it isn’t still coming from Love, all things Serve. 

If someone treats you in what we call in this world “unlovingly,” they may just be giving you exactly what you need to experience “Love.” 

Remembering that we do not know what anything is for, while at the same time Knowing that it is all for Love, is what places the cracks in us so the Light can shine.

There are many techniques that can be used to avoid pain, there has usually been, from this one, a quick sarcastic remark or humor put in so that one doesn’t know that they have said something that hurt.  That pattern is now beginning to be seen, it is just an avoidance of the pain, so now, right now, there is pain that comes up and there doesn’t have to be a story placed upon it about something that happened in a past that no longer exists or a future that will not come.

Face the pain in this moment, which is the only moment one ever is in (check it for yourself, you can’t be out of the moment you are in, it is constant), be willing for the pain to arise, and with no story about it, sit and as you sit you begin to feel and what you feel … what the pain covers over … is Love.  Take the pain to the core of your Being and you will find the Gift that is there waiting for You.

REVERSE RACISM

(If you Hear Dr. King, there is both no color and all color reflected in his words.)

  

Funny thing, didn't even know there was such a thing as "Reverse Racism" until doing a search to find a picture to go with this blog post and there is a whole wikipedia thing about it (however it is not where this pointing is going ... it is about dropping racism altogether ... having a level playing field even when you think or feel like there isn't one...seeing one anyway, in spite of what is believed).  This has been coming up again recently.  It came up last semester while reading all about history (it’s been said it’s called “his story” because history is written by the ones that win, if you win, you get to tell the story, but winning doesn’t make a story true.  ~Wayne Austin).  

It was very discouraging to read some of the things we have done to each other as humans over the years, centuries in the name of pretty much you name it … kings, gods, religions, beliefs, gangs we just about almost don’t need a reason to kill anymore, we just seem to like to kill and then make up a reason.  However, one of the things that was seen in looking through history was the energy that would come up around what would seem like “injustice or wrong doing.”

There needs to be a reminder that we will not ever know the whole story, and that we cannot see the large picture of why things happen.  This is just one example but take any example from history and place yourself there in that era and see if you could possibly see it the way you are seeing it now … if we could then maybe we could see that although the founding Fathers of America left England because of oppression, they came to America and had slaves while writing “all men are created equal.”  However, if one could look ahead 200 years, maybe they wouldn’t be so quick to judge because one has to put their self in the “history” they are reading and imagine what that time was like … the founding Fathers couldn’t just abolish slavery that had been going on for thousands of years, but they were genius enough to write a document which help to lead to the abolition of slavery within 100 years and to have a black President within a little over 200 years.  That is pretty damn amazing.  

So yes things can move slowly, minds don’t seem to change quickly.  But if we revert to “reverse racism” where we go back and look and get angry about injustices that we cannot do anything about but get angry, without looking at a big picture, to see things in a way that says, “maybe I am not seeing this correctly.”  Then it just takes longer for the mind to change and it affects everyone around that one that will not let go of the stories.

It takes a spacious mind to allow the possibility that it maybe wrong about what it sees or believes.  That nothing is actually holding one back right now, accept their beliefs about being held back.  “Reverse Racism” is when you use something from the past to say it is keeping you from being what you want in the present moment.  It is weight that holds everyone down, the one believing it and all of those around them.  It is like a sinking ship that breeds negativity.  And negativity loves company.  To know that you are held back by nothing, takes the willingness to stand alone.  To not share the company with those that continually complain about how hard the world is and how it is so unfair.  This mentality has destroyed many people’s lives and the ones that don’t even get a good chance of escaping it are the children, who are listening to the adults around them talk about how life isn’t fair and that wrongs were done to their people and this goes for every race and the stories/lies perpetuate themselves into another generation.  White’s complain about all the same shit that black people do and Native American’s complain about all the same things that blacks and whites do and you name a nationality and we can find a complainer in there (but some people just like to complain … it’s much easier than leaving things alone or doing something to make a change in a positive direction).  So it is not about “race” really, even though this post is title that … maybe it should be called “Stop Complaining.”  :o)))))

If there is a current injustice and it is bothering you … don’t speak on it … go do something about it … or leave it alone … but don’t breed negativity by just complaining about something that happened without any willingness to be part of the change of making a difference.

If there is something for you to be involved in.  It will show up.  Otherwise, look around you … right this minute look around you.  Do you really have anything to complain about?  Really?  Aren’t all your needs met?  Really, honestly aren’t they.  There is nothing to breed fear about or claim injustice about, unless there is and if there is, it will be something that you participate in without notoriety, without fanfare, you will do it because you are called to do it.  Real change can come, by just seeing the world as it is, not stories about the world, just STOP right NOW and take a look at the world around you … not on TV … the world you/the world your body is in … right in front of your face … is there an atrocity there?  Is there racism there?  Is there unfairness there?  Or is that all just a story you are telling?  Why are you looking for reasons to not get along, just get along.

We do not need to be in tribes any longer, let us appreciate what the tribe created culturally, yet the mentality is one that no longer serves the day we are in.  No more "us" and "them"... that is war.  It is time to look at not how different we are, but how very much the same and in that grows compassion.

Honesty is for the self, for yourSelf.  To thine own Self be True.

This speaking comes from one that has no nationality and yet includes all nationalities, has the blood of all of life in it and yet it cannot be touched by this world, neither man nor woman.  It is the same for you and is held for you until the day that you claim it as your own.  This speaking comes from what we are all in, that which unites us all ... not separates into categories to breed negativity and violence.